Yesterday we met with Caleb’s teacher to discuss his behavior issues. His teacher, Ms. K, was super nice and made sure to point out what he was doing well, instead of just focusing on the things he struggled with. As expected, she pointed out that most of his issues were with socializing, which is to be expected from a 5yo boy who didn’t go to preschool (her words, not mine). But, since she wasn’t around to pay $500 a month for preschool, I’m not going to feel bad for not sending him.
We actually felt pretty good after the meeting. All of his struggles she discussed were not a surprise to us and it was actually a relief to learn how conscientious she is of how he is and how all the kids interact with each other. She seemed very concerned that the kids would alienate him if he continued to be so aggressive. But apparently, he’s already improved greatly since the big incident last week. I think that there is something to be said for the socialization argument, for Caleb anyway. There are a lot more expectations and it’s new for him to be around 24 other kids.
She pointed out that he seemed overly concerned with what all the other kids were doing and had a difficult time not inserting himself into situations that have nothing to do with him. Yup. Sounds like Caleb, trying to orchestrate the actions of everyone, thinking he’s the one in charge. And she mentioned that he’s got the makings of a leader, if he can learn some self-control. Haha! Exactly what Shane and I have been saying for years.
I asked if he had some buddies he played with regularly. She sighed and said yes. There are three boys that he hangs out with. And the four of them are her “gang of hoodlums” that she needs to keep an eye on. Maybe you had to be there, but it was pretty funny. Imagine a little group of 5yo boys already conspiring to cause mischief. One of the boys is the “She’s a Boy” boy.
I have to say, this is all kind of fun. Watching Caleb grow up, having other people help and finally not feeling so frightened that we’re all going to fail him.
I suspected that he would be so much happier after starting school, and I was right. He plays by himself, he lets me read stories to him and yesterday he actually suggested that he do his homework! Every morning he wakes up about an hour before everyone else and he just plays in his room until we get up! I can’t tell you how happy I am that I finally get to sit on the couch with him and read him several books in a row. If only we could get Ana to stop using my belly as a drum at the same time.