One day I was feeling very wound up. So many things on my mind. No matter what I accomplished, there was always so much that I needed to do. And everyone was annoying me. Why did I have to keep reminding everyone of their responsibilities?! I can’t even remember my own!! I was sick of managing everyone’s life.
That’s what I was doing, I just realized. Managing people. I have to ensure my family has food to eat, by shopping and cooking. I have to ensure the kids are succeeding at school, by reminding them about homework and communicating with the school. I have to ensure they are active and healthy, by driving them to lessons and arranging medical appointments. The list goes on.
I started to realize that my job is serious. People like to joke about “stay-at-home-moms” watching soap operas and eating bon-bons all day. But seriously? There’s a lot of shit to be done. And that’s why I feel so overwhelmed. I don’t watch soap operas or eat bon-bons (I much prefer mint chocolate chip Its-It), but I certainly haven’t been doing my job well.
By the way, I dislike that title, stay-at-home mom. I dislike the acronym SAHM even more. It’s insulting to everyone. Those that don’t have a paying job (we’re much more than just moms), those that don’t have a vagina (hello, Mr. Mom), and those that do have a paying job (any term including the word “mom” will eventually lead to the full-time/part-time mom argument, which is just rude.) That’s why I really like Domestic Manager. It’s so much more accurate. I’m totally putting it on my next tax return.
I need to take my job seriously. Instead of getting upset with the kids for not remembering what they need to do, I need to be in charge and make sure it all gets done. Instead of getting things done myself, I was expecting them to pick up my slack. It’s way more reasonable for my 5 year old to forget to brush her hair, then for me to wing it every morning and expect her to magically start a hair brushing routine. I need to get it together and make it happen. I’d like to think that after years of making this happen, the kids will eventually do it on their own. That would be me teaching my kids how to care for themselves, right?!
Here are my areas of concern:
- Car Service
- Financial Management
- Pet Care
- Medical Care
- Kid’s Activities
- Shopping and Errands