Wow! I never noticed it before, but Caleb totally has my chin, doesn’t he?
Is she getting big or what? Look at that belly!
I thought that it was really interesting that when I was pregnant with Ana and people found out that I was having a girl and already had a boy, they all said the same thing. Something like “You have a set! You’re so lucky! Now you can stop!” I didn’t realize how many people viewed having one boy and one girl as the perfect set of kids. I don’t really see it that way though. If we were going to have only two kids, I think I’d rather have two boys or two girls because I think they would be able to relate better and have more in common. Whenever someone made a comment about how we are so lucky and can stop having more kids now, I’d tell them that, actually, we want two of each. Eyes bulged and the conversation ended.
Even though the labor and delivery was painful, when we finally had her to hold in our arms, I couldn’t stop thinking about how I wanted to have more. I don’t remember feeling that way with Caleb. Things feel so different this time and I’m sure it’s because I’m more confident that I won’t accidently kill the baby 🙂 But, I think some of it is because Ana is a girl. Don’t get me wrong. I love Caleb so very much. I love how he is such a boy. How he loves everything mechanical and even how he thinks poopy diaper jokes are hilarious. But, I think that Shane probably gets a warm fuzzy that I don’t experience when Caleb makes a really great move with the soccer ball or when he makes a great catch of the football.
With Ana, she is already so obviously a girl. Her long thin fingers and the way she curls and tucks her hands under her chin are so feminine. She also doesn’t cry nearly as much as Caleb did. With Caleb, many times I couldn’t figure out why he was so upset. Hungry? nope. Dirty diaper? nope. Needs to be held? nope. With Ana, I just seem to get her. We seem to get each other. Sometimes she gets crabby and Shane will rock her in a certain way that almost always got Caleb to calm down. But, it doesn’t work on her. All I have to do is pick her up and if she isn’t hungry or dirty, she’ll just fall asleep. It was the same way with Shane and Caleb though. When Caleb was extremely fussy, Shane had another trick where he would take him outside and “reset” him. It always worked for Shane, but not me.
So, I guess we really are lucky to be able to experience raising a boy and a girl. But, really, just one of each doesn’t seem right to me. It’s not right for us. Ana is just so cute and small and helpless… I could totally get addicted to having babies 🙂